Is separation anxiety kicking in ? Looking for the perfect person to keep your baby or toddler happy while you are away? I am afraid this is a tough and scary place to be, because no one can look after your baby better than you! So we need to face reality pick the second best choice but make it a good one. Something you need to consider is the separation anxiety in your child, how well you handle this initially before you move on and leave your baby or toddler behind.
The good news is Separation anxiety is normal during early childhood. It usually starts at about 6 to 8 months of age and lasts until about 2 and a half years to 4 years. This anxiety reflects the child's attempts to hold on to what is safe and comfortable and it will settle down as the child grows older and confident. In the first few months of life the baby is attached to the main carer or carers, that is you MOM and DAD, this is because they learn the love, attention, comfort and nourishment you provide. The baby recognizes the special people in there life very early and clearly recognize the difference with family and strangers. When the child feels this special person in not there they get upset and reacts to that condition or situation. So how do we soft peddle this moments ? Start with establishing patterns where you are out only for a short time and come back and spend time with your young one and make them safe.
Unfortunately all children have to learn I to deal with separations. It is part of life so let's make this difficult situation easy as possibles for them and us . If separations are managed well, it helps children to deal with separations better through out their lives. So let's move on and pick the best Tinker bell possible!
Always make sure your child care giver is through recommendation and check all given references. Make certain before you leave your baby or toddler with your care giver you spend time training them under direct supervision. Plan out the schedules for them always insist they follow the routine without upsetting your baby or toddler. The best way to see if the journey with your care give and you is a continuous path, check when you come back if they catch up on all your baby or toddlers day. Are there too many mess for you to pick up? Is the baby clean and happy? Are they willing to work late ? Do they value your time where they inform you well ahead if they are running late or unable to come ? But most of all the connection your baby and toddler has with the care giver, if your baby's or toddlers response is not warm and cuddles to them that clearly shows that's what they are getting from Tinker bell while you are away !
Good Luck MOM
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